How To Survive Everyday Manipulators

We live in a world where we cooperate with one another, almost never in a selfless way, which is both necessary and beneficial. However, it involves a great risk, and that is to meet the everyday manipulators.

Surely, with this brief description, we are all thinking of someone specific or, at least, we are getting an idea of ​​what this means. Surely we ourselves have behaved as everyday manipulators.

Who has not thought that they would run the company better than their boss? Or that we are victims of the suffering and injustice that happens in the world around us? Who has not yelled at someone and has justified themselves in their actions to do so?

Wolves in sheep’s clothing

Once upon a time there was a wolf who was very hungry. So he wanted to eat a sheep from a flock that lived near his house. However, the shepherd of the flock was always very attentive and, no matter how many attempts he made, he never succeeded.

One day the wolf thought about changing his appearance so that it would be easier for him to get his food. Walking through the woods he saw a sheepskin, and he put it over it to look like a sheep. Then he went to graze with the flock, totally misleading the shepherd.

At dusk, the herd went to the part of the farm where they spent the night, the gate being secured.

The wolf said to himself “Now, when the shepherd falls asleep, I will take the sheep that is fatter and have a real feast.”

But that night, when the shepherd was looking for his family’s food for the next day, he went to the herd and caught the wolf, believing it to be a lamb. He sacrificed it instantly.

When the shepherd’s wife tried to cook it, she realized that it was not really a lamb, but a wolf. When she called her husband, he recognized the wolf who had already tried several times to attack his sheep.

Looks are deceiving

As we all know, appearances can be deceiving. People behave in a passive, aggressive, or passive-aggressive manner with some intention.

Thus, blackmailers, vampires, and emotional predators behave much more destructively than everyday manipulators. They don’t always use threat and they don’t always destroy.

In fact, we usually excuse them precisely because we love or appreciate them, since their abuse is not always explicit or constant.

The strategies of everyday manipulators

Everyday manipulators make us feel guilty, they manage us to satisfy their needs in such a way that we end up doing what they want of our own free will, or by force.

His way of acting is not based on fear, but on guilt. The most authentic manipulation is the one that is done without being noticed, without standing out.

Playing the victim, threatening or encouraging someone to do something for us in exchange for a smile can be very effective; however, it is not necessary at all.

Living with a manipulator is complicated and exhausting. This is not only due to continuous attempts at submission, but also to their lack of emotional and social resources, their instability and the emotional emptiness that undermines their inner life.

The everyday manipulators do not pretend to succeed or climb, but do not know any other way to solve their problems or achieve their interests, besides being unable to take “no” for an answer.