4 Reasons Not To Settle For A Relationship

Conform is one of the verbs that should least be conjugated. It is a word that we should not pronounce assiduously. This word can express that we have stopped fighting, having ideals and looking for what makes us happy. In short, it means that we have stopped working for our illusions.

Sadly, settling is something that can happen in dating relationships. We give up, we give up and, as a consequence, we settle for situations that we should not accept.

Conforming is not an option

It is something basic: for a relationship to last, our exchanges have to take place from affection, understanding and trust.  Sometimes we forget all this and the routine allows us to relax in certain expressions of love, respect and mutual consideration that we should never let go.

But the truth is that sometimes we are in a great hurry to resolve conflict situations and “get back to normal”, even if that means going through the hoop. If we add to that that demanding people are frowned upon by society, we will have a perfect bomb from which conformity will explode.

Then there is that of “ biological clocks “ , “ bachelors “ , “ marriage in adulthood “ and the importance of finding “ our better half “ that forces us to pair up in a hurry.

Faced with these dilemmas, it is not surprising that we rush before we find our “ perfect match” . Today we are going to tell you a few reasons through which you will understand that, whether or not you are in a relationship, you do not have to give up what makes you feel fully good.

1. The fear of being alone can mess up our priorities

We are convinced that having no companions in life is terrifying. In fact, there are few things that fill us with more sadness and compassion than watching a person alone.

We don’t know (or don’t want to) contemplate the possibility of not having a partner, of walking through life alone; that is why we are scared of people who prefer to hold onto their own hand.

It is very common for us to think that “ we are passing the rice, the train or the moment to find the love of our life ” or that “ the older we are, the more difficult it will be to find someone ” .

The need and fear of being alone are easily sensed, as they lead us to desperately search for a partner to help us fill those emotional and vital deficiencies that seem to arise.

It is understandable that we seek to establish intimate contacts, as we are social animals and we naturally feel the need for affiliation.

However, when the fear of being alone prompts us to start a relationship, we will end up choosing perishable relationships that depress us and even make us vulnerable.

Our relationships are not fueled by necessity, but by preference.

2. Being single has many advantages

We all have strengths and weaknesses and, as such, whoever loves us will accept us. Generally, we are too perfectionists about the qualities we want in our partner. As a result, we may turn down potential partners for merely superficial reasons.

Not being too tall won’t be as important in the long run as being a caring person. However, ignoring these “flaws” does not mean having to settle, but that love consists in seeing that person in a complete way.

We are neither a bunch of flaws nor a bunch of virtues, but we are a great landscape to behold. What we have to do is assess whether with that person we feel good, comfortable and happy.

We are whole beings, not half oranges

Chosen solitude is great  because it helps you know yourself, value yourself, and trust yourself. It is a bubble of protection.

It is not necessary to have no partner to choose solitude. You can have a totally fulfilling love life but need to set aside a few minutes a day or a week for yourself.

Ultimately,  it is about enjoying moments of intimacy rather than solitude. Not only is it an option, but it is truly recommended for everyone.

Without a doubt, despite what society tells us, accompanying ourselves is something extraordinarily desirable. It is the only way to achieve inner balance. This is much more important if we are still waiting for the arrival of a great love.

What has been exposed here is advice that has no scientific evidence and may not work for you. We recommend consulting with a mental health specialist if you need professional help.