Over Time You Learn To Love More, But Fewer People

Far from what many people may think, time does not grant by itself that wisdom and maturity  with which, at last, one manages to lead the life one wants. Maturing implies, in the first place, becoming aware of everything done and lived in order to obtain learning.

It is an act that must be carried out with the humility of one who assumes every mistake made, but without regretting it. Because everything that happened is life lived, everything helps us to balance.

Likewise, there are many people who, little by little, are realizing something very concrete. What gives us true happiness is not having things, accumulating material goods or achieving success.

Happiness is found in something as simple as loving and being loved. Now, something like that only makes real sense with a very limited group of people. We suggest you reflect on the subject.

Over time you learn and discover

During adolescence or in our early youth, things and people come to us with the impact of someone who wants to try everything without applying any filters.

• We want to experience, laugh, love, discover and feel. Setting limits and barriers often means not being accepted and losing our opportunity to join the group.
• Loves come with the intensity of a summer storm. We let ourselves be carried away with that enlightened need of someone who longs to feel loved and love. The same goes for friendships.

However, as time passes, we open that inner gaze that is able to see what surrounds us with more calm, with more perspective and wisdom.

Over time, accumulating people does not bring happiness

Loneliness can be alleviated in many ways, but accumulating friends is not the best way. Doing so means, first of all, adding people to our lives who will not always be sincere or harmonize with our identity.

• Loneliness is that personal void that you must fill yourself with maturity in order to establish fuller and more authentic relationships with others.
• As time passes, we lose many friends. Because time is wise and tells us “who is” and “who is not.”
• Only then do we realize that authenticity and sincere affection is what can most enrich our soul and our heart.
• Values ​​such as respect, reciprocity or that complicity where one understands that he needs the other person are not easy to find.
• Once we find the true friends or couples that fit each edge of our heart, we refuse to let them go, because they are the ones who give birth to our existence.

Less is more, also in our personal relationships

Extroverts and people in need of encouragement appreciate this continuous interaction in large groups of people where they can make contact with those around them. Laugh with these, converse with those …

• The more interaction, the more happiness. More friends, more opportunities to go out, enjoy and start new projects.
• However, and this is also common in this type of personality more open to the outside, over time it is discovered that it is always better to have a small number of people around us with whom to enjoy that more satisfactory daily treatment.
• It is not about breaking ties, avoiding certain people, colleagues and family members. It’s really about not reinforcing that awkward bond with respectful distance.

Also, over time we no longer care what others think of us. We know that less is more and that, if that little bit gives us great happiness, we no longer need to add anything to it.

I settle for little because I know what is best

If you have two friends and  they are sincere, noble and authentic, you don’t need anything else : they are a treasure. Also, if you have a partner with whom you walk in harmony, with whom you grow, feel yourself and enjoy every moment, you have everything.

• Reducing our life to these close spheres, such as our partner, friends and some members of our family, is not an act that nobody can criticize. Who knows what he has, appreciates it and takes care of it, does not need anything else.
• However, this is something that not everyone can see. Sometimes the most beautiful thing you have in your life is very close to you.

True friendship is built between two. Evaluate how good a friend you are. Sow your heart and your gaze with humility in order to discover where true happiness is.